In Sickness or in Health

Lessons Learned from My Sickness Part 9: In Sickness or in Health

Rhonzy Maellen (daughter), Martha Mae (wife) and Ronny

Rhonzy Maellen (daughter), Martha Mae (wife) and Ronny

I’ve solemnized marriage ceremonies of many couples.

In fact, I have already lost count how many I had pronounced as husbands and wives to be united in holy matrimony.

But there’s never an instant in which I forgot to include in their wedding vows this statement – do you promise to remain faithful, to love, comfort and honor your spouse, from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, in SICKNESS or in health…?

And all of them said, I DO!

I’ve made the same vows myself with Mam Martha (we will celebrate our 25th anniversary this coming July, 2015).

I discovered the true essence, meaning and application of this vow in my sickness!

Without Mam Martha’s presence by my side, sacrificial service, in depth affirmation of love and earnest prayers, I could have succumbed to hopelessness.

I was very vulnerable to negative emotions like fear, uncertainty and confusion.

It was easy to issue denials, blames and complaints if only to ease my mind of these negative vibrations.

Mam Martha ensured that in sickness, our vows would be strengthened, our relationship would be closer, our love for each other more meaningful, visible and pure.

I get stronger everyday because of Mam Martha’s consistent affirmation of our marriage covenant.

She’s there for me, in the moments I certainly need her.

I thank the Lord for giving me Mam Martha!

Posted on FB: 5 March 2015 – 4:24 PM

Jaro Evangelical Church

About the Author

Rev. Ronny Luces is the Minister for Administration and Community Service of Jaro Evangelical Church (JEC), Iloilo City, Philipines. He and wife, Martha have been with JEC’s ministry since 1994.

Pastor Ronny graduated from Central Philippine University College of Theology in 1985 and was pastor of several Baptist churches.

In January 2015, after tests and two long hospital confinements, Pastor Ronny got the word he has lung cancer. He is undergoing chemotherapy.

Praying for healing and going through all the medical processes, Pastor Ronny writes his reflections “Lessons Learned from My Sickness”.

May Pastor Ronny’s series of reflections and meditations strengthen your hope and faith as you go through your own life’s battles. Please pray for Pastor Ronny’s healing.


When Your Love Becomes Patient With Your Spouse


When does your love become patient to your spouse?

I guess when both of you have learned to accept one another.

Well, for all the different personalities involved in husband and wife relationship, there is no one-size-fits-all solution.

It’s true, there’s no generic prescription as each couple has their own unique relationship dynamics.

Basically, married couples ought to understand the sanctity of marriage, which is a covenant not only made between you and your spouse but most of all, with God and the community.

If you have made a vow on your marriage day and the minister blessed you with the Bible verse, “what God has joined together, let not man separate”, then you are bound to work out that marriage relationship from day one to forever.

Your love has become patient when you commit yourself to accepting your spouse. Try to consider that the best lesson in patience is learned through waiting.

You must realize that you are created in the Lord God Almighty’s loving image, broken to sin, but restored by the saving grace of Jesus Christ. When couples commit to take time to build in faith the image of God in their lives, they will surely love each other in patience.

From a Facebook wall, I read this post by a spouse:

My love, all that are happening lately are still part of our never-ending adjustment with one another. Let us remember that “the biggest room in this world is the room for improvement” and the guidance of God in all our struggles and conflicts. I am happy that despite our differences we are able to talk until we have resolved issues that may hinder our good relationship as husband and wife.

For sure there would be things that we will discover while living together but I am always hopeful that in every problem there is a solution because we are partners in life, in love, in struggles, in joys and most of all in faith.  May God bless our family, working hand in hand as a team for His glory! I love you and that’s certainly for life!

Let patience make your love go blind, accept patiently your spouse and let the Holy Spirit guide you in your quest.

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