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When Your Love Becomes Patient With Your Spouse

Marriage

When does your love become patient to your spouse?

I guess when both of you have learned to accept one another.

Well, for all the different personalities involved in husband and wife relationship, there is no one-size-fits-all solution.

It’s true, there’s no generic prescription as each couple has their own unique relationship dynamics.

Basically, married couples ought to understand the sanctity of marriage, which is a covenant not only made between you and your spouse but most of all, with God and the community.

If you have made a vow on your marriage day and the minister blessed you with the Bible verse, “what God has joined together, let not man separate”, then you are bound to work out that marriage relationship from day one to forever.

Your love has become patient when you commit yourself to accepting your spouse. Try to consider that the best lesson in patience is learned through waiting.

You must realize that you are created in the Lord God Almighty’s loving image, broken to sin, but restored by the saving grace of Jesus Christ. When couples commit to take time to build in faith the image of God in their lives, they will surely love each other in patience.

From a Facebook wall, I read this post by a spouse:

My love, all that are happening lately are still part of our never-ending adjustment with one another. Let us remember that “the biggest room in this world is the room for improvement” and the guidance of God in all our struggles and conflicts. I am happy that despite our differences we are able to talk until we have resolved issues that may hinder our good relationship as husband and wife.

For sure there would be things that we will discover while living together but I am always hopeful that in every problem there is a solution because we are partners in life, in love, in struggles, in joys and most of all in faith.  May God bless our family, working hand in hand as a team for His glory! I love you and that’s certainly for life!

Let patience make your love go blind, accept patiently your spouse and let the Holy Spirit guide you in your quest.

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When Love Becomes Patient

 

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.
1 Corinthians 13:4

From Worry To Glory

Perhaps you have read or heard 1 Corinthians 13 and admire its awesome description of love. Usually, this chapter (or portions of it) is read during wedding ceremonies.

The definition about love begins with the phrase, “Love is patient…” and have you ever wondered why love begins with being patient?

It’s easy to recite or quote from the Scriptures, “Love is patient…” but you would probably agree with me that it’s hard to do this.

Realizing the value of patience in a relationship, I am more inclined to declare that love is all about being patient. After experiencing and witnessing how patience works, I can testify that without patience, one can never be truly in love.

No wonder the Apostle Paul placed patience as the primary qualification or let me say the first departing point of true love. Learning to be patient means conquering all other aspects of love.

When does love become patient?

Some would say, “I have love but it’s not patient yet” or “I am still nurturing my love to become patient.”

Well, we can’t avoid such statements because we are always in the process of becoming. Who in this human world could say that he or she was born with love that is patient?

Our only sure claim is that biologically, we were all products of patience (or impatience?) considering the birth process and the loving that we received as we grow. It takes time for love to grow in our hearts.

We might not have received much love from our parents and families but our faith in God’s love is enough to enable us to shine His love through.

If it takes patience to be truly in love, then have you ever asked when does love become patient?

Let me cite some instances when love became patient through my personal experience and observation.

When a mother loves unconditionally her child

I believe that a mother’s love is the most unconditional love that one can receive. From conception, gestation, birth, feeding, caring, even until maturity, the mother exhibits unconditional love.

My apologies to fathers out there for my bias but I see that fathers are often at their wit’s end when dealing with growing children. Let’s give credit to our mothers who bore and give birth to us all, a gift and strength that fathers cannot do.

A true loving mother will never neglect her child, regardless of situations. She would always think about her child’s welfare, giving love and attention, even if others might have shown rejection.

When an older child accepts his younger sibling for who he is

Hey big brothers (or big sisters), are you familiar with the “why can’t you be like me” tendency”?

Yeah, and the tendency becomes clear when the younger sibling appears to be leading to wayward life. He or she is sidetracked, a bum, a failure. Worst, some families label a member as a “black sheep” because he or she isn’t like anybody else.

It takes maturity and faith in God’s unconditional love for us to accept our family member for who he or she is. When you have learned to accept your family member, you are always on a compassion mode.

When you are compassionate about helping your sibling, acknowledging that “you are your brother’s keeper”, God will give you wisdom to deal with personality differences and circumstances.

TO BE CONTINUED…

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Why Gathering Offering on Your Wedding Day is Great Blessing

 

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Before anything else, please know that I’m writing in the perspective of being a Filipino Baptist and married in a Baptist wedding ceremony.

I don’t know how many Baptist couples or officiating ministers have practiced the idea but we definitely reaped the blessings of gathering offering on our wedding day.

I am advocating the gathering of offering instead of the traditional “coin ceremony” portion of the Filipino Baptist wedding because of the following reasons:

Substance and not mere symbols

When we support our brother and sister in Christ who are starting their lives together, it must be expressed in substance and not mere symbols.

I John 3:18 says: Dear children, let us not love with words or speech but with actions and in truth.

The traditional coin ceremony is the part where the groom presents the bride coins (13 pieces gold or silver in Filipino tradition) as symbol of his commitment to give for the bride and family. The coins symbolize abundance in the home that the new couple will build.

In the Convention Baptist tradition, we practise gathering special offering to support delegates attending conventions, camps, and other activities. We also gather special offering to help brethren in need of financial help. Why not gather a special offering to help a couple getting married?

I believe that giving special offering on a wedding day in support of church couple who are starting their lives together would give impact to both the couple and to the church.

Through the church members’ offering, the community spirit in the church is given great substance. It is giving flesh to the traditional giving of “symbolic coins” to represent prosperity.

Wedding is community in worship

The wedding is a sacred ceremony. It is also a gathering of community in worship, witnessing the sanctity of the union of man and woman.

In solidarity with the beginning of new living for the couple, giving your offering for the couple will bless the marriage and the testimony of the church.

When and how the offering will be administered

It shall be done in the “coin ceremony” portion of the wedding.

The officiating minister must give time to explain, why an offering will be gathered instead of the traditional coin ceremony.

He must emphasize that the offering will be given to the couple and will not go to the officiating minister.

Giving offering vs. money dance

I know of many couples who dismissed the idea because they are shy about doing it and they thought it’s not acceptable and “kahuluya”.

Ironically, I saw these couples who did not agree with the idea of gathering offering, doing a money dance during reception.

The money dance is that part of the reception where the couple go dancing at the middle of the reception venue, while guests pin or paste some bills on their dresses.

If wedding is a form of worship, then the giving of offering is an act that every church member will appreciate. For sure, the community will be happy to give because they are blessing a couple’s lives.

My question is which is more acceptable in a Baptist wedding, giving offering or money dance?

Also, is it not more “kahuluya” that for the couple to receive your gift of money, they have to dance for it?

Blessings of Wedding Offering

We could not deny that starting a family, especially today, is quite hard. Imagine the finances that the couple’s families will spend for that special wedding occasion.

Gathering a wedding offering will surely be a great send off for the couple who have decided to seek God’s will in the sanctity of marriage. The generous giver will be blessed more because he or she has participated in starting a Christian home.

AUTHOR’S NOTE

On our wedding day, I and my wife decided to gather a wedding offering in lieu of the traditional “coin ceremony” because of the reasons mentioned above. That wedding offering allowed us to pay all the expenses for that special event, buy basic things to start a home, and open savings account.

Our gratitude to our officiating ministers, Rev. Amsil Alubog and Rev. Melvin Mangana, mga maninoy kag maninay, family and kin, Ajuy Baptist Church, Believers’ Fellowship Church (NTBC) and all brothers and sisters in Christ for unselfishly facilitating and cooperating in that grand memorable event. May the Lord God Almighty bless you and keep you all!

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To A Loving Father – Rev. Marcos B. Cloma

By Mark Arliss Cloma

Father and son pastors

As we go through Father’s Day fever, thinking about what remembrance we can do to our fathers, let us also visit and reflect about what the scriptures say about fathers.

I came upon Proverbs 13:24 which says, “He who spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him disciplines him promptly”.

This talks about discipline that fathers carried out to their children. To some, the qualification of remembrance is either how good or bad their father has been to them.

For me, I reflected on how my father would get mad and shout at me way back in my college years. Those times were very hard for me and sadly, it created hatred in me for a long time.

After those years of selfishness, thinking how irrational or wrong he was, I came to realize that there are also many beautiful things that he did to me. I recalled him carrying me home after I fell asleep during a visit at a friend’s house. He was my number one fan when I first played softball when I was in first year high school.

He even bought me spiked shoes for a town’s softball tournament when actually there was no tournament. He travelled one and a half hour to give us our allowance almost every week when my brother and I transferred to a city high school.

I remembered my father coming, surprising me with a brand new pair of football shoes after he saw me wearing my worn out and recycled old shoes in a secondary tournament. Once he requested my football coach to let me out of the game after he saw me limping at the start of first half thinking that I still could come back in the game.

There are so many things that he did that made me smile or laugh remembering them now. These things tell me that he is a good and loving father, and he just wanted to bring the best for and in me.

I also realized that the reasons he disciplined me was to bring me to my senses, making me do away with my laziness, or I perhaps I was already to much of a “pasaway” (mischievous).

The scripture above reflects God’s type of discipline He uses for His stubborn children. He disciplined Israel because they were doing things that were not pleasing to Him.

Many famous personalities in the Bible like David, Jonah, Samson, Moses and many others who disobeyed the Lord’s commands experienced God’s type of discipline. And after they realized their awful deeds and asked forgiveness, the Lord blessed them and prosper them.

This is also the same for us. God gave us fathers to love us.

We may think they are very hard on us but it’s a way of telling us they love us and they just want the best for us. For this Father’s Day, together let us ask forgiveness and make them feel appreciated and loved.

For me, a few years from now I will also become a father. I already have some ideas about running a family, about how to be a good husband to my wife and a good father to my children but, I will definitely make Papa my number one model.

To Rev. Marcos B. Cloma, I am sorry if I hated you before in my younger years!

I thank you because you are the reason I become the person like I am today. You may not always be here with me all the time, but you made me come closer to you with your prayers.

You may not be the greatest financial and material provider, but you provided me with lessons in life and an attitude of faith. You may not be among the list of greatest dads in this imperfect world, but I can proudly shout to the world that you are the greatest father to me. I love you!

Happy Fathers Day to all fathers!

ADMIN NOTE:

Pastor Mark Arliss Cloma is the 3rd of four children of Rev. Marcos B. Cloma. He finished theology in 2011. Presently, he is pastor of Malublub Baptist Church, Badiangan, Iloilo.

Rev. Marcos B. Cloma was pastor of several churches in Capiz and Mindanao areas for more than 40 years.

Pastor Marc went home to His Master and Lord on 31 October 2013.

PHOTO CREDIT: Rdenn Faith Arsenal-Cloma

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My Father’s Day Reflection

By Mark Arliss Cloma

As we go through Father’s Day fever, thinking about what remembrance we can do to our fathers, let us also visit and reflect about what the scriptures say about fathers.

I came upon Proverbs 13:24 which says, “He who spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him disciplines him promptly”.

This talks about discipline that fathers carried out to their children. To some, the qualification of remembrance is either how good or bad their father has been to them.

For me, I reflected on how my father would get mad and shout at me way back in my college years. Those times were very hard for me and sadly, it created hatred in me for a long time.

After those years of selfishness, thinking how irrational or wrong he was, I came to realize that there are also many beautiful things that he did to me. I recalled him carrying me home after I fell asleep during a visit at a friend’s house. He was my number one fan when I first played softball when I was in first year high school.

He even bought me spiked shoes for a town’s softball tournament when actually there was no tournament. He travelled one and a half hour to give us our allowance almost every week when my brother and I transferred to a city high school.

I remembered my father coming, surprising me with a brand new pair of football shoes after he saw me wearing my worn out and recycled old shoes in a secondary tournament. Once he requested my football coach to let me out of the game after he saw me limping at the start of first half thinking that I still could come back in the game.

There are so many things that he did that made me smile or laugh remembering them now. These things tell me that he is a good and loving father, and he just wanted to bring the best for and in me.

I also realized that the reasons he disciplined me was to bring me to my senses, making me do away with my laziness, or I perhaps I was already to much of a “pasaway” (mischievous).

The scripture above reflects God’s type of discipline He uses for His stubborn children. He disciplined Israel because they were doing things that were not pleasing to Him.

Many famous personalities in the Bible like David, Jonah, Samson, Moses and many others who disobeyed the Lord’s commands experienced God’s type of discipline. And after they realized their awful deeds and asked forgiveness, the Lord blessed them and prosper them.

This is also the same for us. God gave us fathers to love us.

We may think they are very hard on us but it’s a way of telling us they love us and they just want the best for us. For this Father’s Day, together let us ask forgiveness and make them feel appreciated and loved.

For me, a few years from now I will also become a father. I already have some ideas about running a family, about how to be a good husband to my wife and a good father to my children but, I will definitely make Papa my number one model.

To Rev. Marcos B. Cloma, I am sorry if I hated you before in my younger years!

I thank you because you are the reason I become the person like I am today. You may not always be here with me all the time, but you made me come closer to you with your prayers.

You may not be the greatest financial and material provider, but you provided me with lessons in life and an attitude of faith. You may not be among the list of greatest dads in this imperfect world, but I can proudly shout to the world that you are the greatest father to me. I love you!

Happy Fathers Day to all fathers!

ADMIN NOTE:

Pastor Mark Arliss Cloma is the 3rd of four children of Rev. Marcos B. Cloma. He finished theology in 2011. Presently, he is pastor of Malublub Baptist Church, Badiangan, Iloilo.

Rev. Marcos B. Cloma was pastor of several churches in Capiz and Mindanao areas for more than 40 years.

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Two Reasons We Must Want To Serve God

 
Is serving God an option or obligation?

Do we need the dramatic, mystical, and awesome meeting with God to assure us of our calling to serve God?

We focus on Isaiah 6:1-8, as our model of God’s commissioning His chosen messenger.

Probably, we grew up hearing when we were kids in Sunday school and reading when we were grown and matured, similar Bible stories and settled with the idea, that those who serve God have to experience what prophets, like Isaiah, had experienced.

You have probably heard some Christians giving the familiar excuse not to serve God because “I didn’t hear God’s call”.

Can we not see Isaiah’s commissioning on the perspective of Isaiah, who was at the temple, praying, worshipping, and most of all, expressing his want to serve God? And that, the vision that came to him was affirmation of his expression of wanting being God’s messenger?

It is my conviction that our wanting to serve God is not based solely on a dramatic, mystical, and supernatural meeting similar to Isaiah’s vision. Without such “special” event makes us easily opt out from serving God.

I have noted that lots of us Christians would choose to make selective service and would easily reserve those “bigger” tasks to people who have special calling.

What would make us want to serve God today? Let me cite two things why we must want to serve God.

My dear brothers and sisters in Christ, in as far as Isaiah is concerned; he was able to do his wish to serve God.

His aspiration to serve God led to his commissioning and he successfully discharged of his mission as the one whom God has sent to prophesy to His people.

The crucial question and challenge for us today is “What would make us want to serve God today?”

The Urgent Need to Serve

Perhaps you would agree with me that we are in a worse situation than during the time of Isaiah. Do you know why?

In Isaiah’s time there was no Internet or digital media that remnants of “sons and daughters of Sodom and Gomorrah” use today to promote immorality and greed.

At least, in Isaiah’s time the world view is just within the areas of Judah and Jerusalem and neighbouring countries. There were no weapons of mass destruction to lives and properties.

Sad to say, the progress of modern technology and the progress of scientific knowledge, which allowed man to live in comfort and prosperity, have made him turn away from God.

In the time of Isaiah, at least the enemies of Israel acknowledge that the God of Israel is strong and mighty. Today, the enemies of God-believers proclaim the non-existence of the Great Almighty God.

If our present generation is worse than Isaiah’s time, then as people of God, are we not supposed to commit to serve God with more intensity today?

The church is given to commit for the keeping of faith. The invitation and calling of God has been given through the Lord Jesus Christ, his life, death, resurrection, and coming again.

This is the Good News that we must PRESERVE and SERVE to our fellowmen.

Partakers of the Body of Christ

What would make us want to serve God is the living fact that we are partakers of the body of Christ.

If you say that you won’t serve God because you are not called and there’s no special event to attest that, then you are wrong.

Let us be reminded that every month we partake of the Lord Supper.

God, revealed in Jesus Christ, whose life we celebrate in the Lord Supper, is our dramatic, mystical, and supernatural encounter with God.

The invitation has always been given and offered to us in the bread and the cup.

I believe that when we receive the bread and the cup we summon ourselves to take part in the life of the body of Christ, which is the living church.

When we partake of the bread and cup of the Lord Jesus Christ, the voice of God has always been there asking, “Whom shall I send? And who will go for us? ”

When we partake of the bread and cup of the Lord Jesus Christ, we commit our lives in responding, “Here am I. Send me!” until the Lord Jesus Christ comes.

May these two things, the urgent need to serve and our partaking in the body of Christ, make us thirst to serve God while we are able and available.

AUTHOR’S NOTE:

This blog post has excerpts of the sermon I delivered at Glenfield Baptist Church. My gratitude and appreciation to Pastor Colin Hopkins, Pastor Andrew Monk and Glenfield Baptist Church for giving me the opportunity to share God’s message on 10 June 2012.

PHOTO CREDIT: Glenfield Baptist Church Good Friday Program Cover

Posted in Faith, Inspirational

To Be Certain in Times of Life’s Uncertainties

 

Have you heard of somebody who claims that he or she never experienced life’s uncertainties?

Jesus said, ” Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they?”

Somehow, despite careful planning, preparation and calculated implementation of our plan in life, along the way something unexpected happens and suddenly we are in a very uncertain situation.

I like Longman Dictionary of Contemporary English‘s definition of “uncertainty” which says, “a situation which you are not sure about because you do not know what will happen”

Yes, “uncertainty” is that situation in life when you aren’t really sure of the outcome and all you can do is give your best at the given moment and leave the results to the Almighty God.

For all uncertainties that I experienced and I am facing in life, I learned two essentials things that give me assurance and strength:

Faith in the Divine Providence

You have to trust Jesus Christ who said “Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothes? Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they?”

Surrender to His Will

Your faith will assure you that the Lord God Almighty has prepared the best solution for your uncertainty.

When you have entrusted your uncertainty on God’s hand and believe that He has the best option for you, then you must surrender to His will.

Of course, it is not easy to go through life’s uncertainties. I must say that it is through prayers and supplication, the intercession of your brothers and sisters in faith, that you will avail much to carry you through trials in life.

The message of Rev. David Jeremiah titled “Slaying the Giant of Worry” explains eloquently how we may overcome worry that may beset us in times of uncertainties.


 
My gratitude to our home group in Glenfield Baptist Church for sharing this video. The fellowship and Christian love that you share is great encouragement and blessing to us. Thank you.

PHOTO CREDIT: The Sparrow by Jose Telesforo Limbaga

 

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