Love is patient; love is kind. It does not envy; it does not boast, it is not proud.
1 Corinthians 13:4
Perhaps you have read or heard 1 Corinthians 13 and admired its excellent love description.
Usually, this chapter (or portions of it) is read during wedding ceremonies.
The definition of love begins with the phrase, “Love is patient…” have you ever wondered why love begins with being patient?
It’s easy to recite or quote from the Scriptures, “Love is patient…” but you would probably agree it’s hard to do this.
Realizing the value of patience in a relationship, I am more inclined to declare that love is all about being patient.
After experiencing and witnessing how patience works, I can testify that one can never be indeed in love without patience.
No wonder the Apostle Paul placed patience as the primary qualification or, let me say, the first departing point of true love. Learning to be patient means conquering all other aspects of love.
When does love become patient?
Some would say, “I have love, but it’s not patient yet”, or “I am still nurturing my love to become patient.”
We can’t avoid such statements because we are always in the process of becoming.
Who in this human world could say that they were born with love that is patient?
Our only sure claim is that biologically, we were all products of patience (or impatience? 🙂 ), considering the birth process and the love we receive as we grow. It takes time for love to grow in our hearts.
We might not have received much love from our parents and families, but our faith in God’s love is enough to enable us to shine His love through.
If it takes patience to be genuinely in love, have you ever asked when love becomes patient?
Let me cite some instances when love became patient through my personal experience and observation.
When a mother loves her child unconditionally
I believe a mother’s love is the most unconditional love one can receive. The mother exhibits unconditional love from conception, gestation, birth, feeding, caring, and even until maturity.
My apologies to fathers out there for my bias, but I see that fathers are often at their wit’s end when dealing with growing children. Let’s give credit to our mothers who bore and gave birth to us all, a gift and strength that fathers cannot do.
A loving mother will never neglect her child, regardless of the situation. She would always think about her child’s welfare, giving love and attention, even if others might have shown rejection.
When an older child accepts his younger sibling for who he is
Hey big brothers (or big sisters), are you familiar with the “why can’t you be like me” tendency”?
Yeah, and the tendency becomes apparent when the younger sibling appears to be leading to wayward life. They are sidetracked, a bum, a failure. Worst, some families label members a “black sheep” because they aren’t like anybody else.
It takes maturity and faith in God’s unconditional love for us to accept our family members for who they are. When you have learned to accept your family member, you are always in a compassionate mode.
When you are compassionate about helping your sibling, acknowledging that “you are your brother’s keeper”, God will give you the wisdom to deal with personality differences and circumstances.